Amanda Palmer’s book “The Art of Asking or How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help” is an absolute gem. It is interesting that I am listening to her narrate it as I am starting on a business around asking. I find it ironic too finding myself on this path knowing that I am a person who would rather do the hard thing instead of ask for anything. I cringe at the thought of asking for help. I have always seen independence as one of my strongest pillars. I used to feel, and sometimes I still do, that if ask I would be seen as inept or inadequate. That maybe I just didn’t try hard enough.
It has just been in the past few months that I started to ask more for what I need help on, for what I want or for what I don’t know. Not an easy thing to do for someone so used to fending for herself. Whenever I do, I feel stirrings of self doubt, that maybe people will judge me for not figuring it out myself. But what I realised is that people genuinely want to help and be of service. They are not judging me. It is me judging myself and listening to my judgy stories.
I think I am not the only one in this world who fear asking for help. Perhaps this is the reason why this AskGina venture triggers such passion in me. I would like people to ask more for what they need and accept that it’s okay to ask for help. We do not become less of who we are when we do. In fact asking is additive because it provides an opening to give and invites a response of gratefulness. So let us keep asking 🙂